These blocks are self-imposed 🔥

And the ultimate question that leads to true shifts.

Hi friends. I’m so thrilled to welcome you to Bruja Soul. I’ve started this Substack to share powerful stories, lessons and ideas with you. Writing will be central for this next chapter of my life and my life’s work as a Shadow Integration Coach. You’ll be hearing from me here from now on through these emails, and you can always access the full archive of posts via the website. I hope you enjoy it! As always, so grateful for your support. All my love! - Gaby

It was a Thursday evening in November 2018, and I was about to walk in to an intense transformational training program for the next four days. A friend I really trust recommended it. I was hesitant, and I knew exactly what I wanted to address here.

I craved a loving, committed relationship more than anything in the world.

And I had stumbled through dating post-divorce at that point for the better part of 7 years, with many micro “relationships” that rarely broke through a 6-week mark. I blamed Miami, I blamed men in Miami, I blamed dating apps and a broken system of modern dating.

After all those years of struggle and frustration, I intuitively knew two things were true:

1. My desire for partnership was real and needed to be honored, and

2. There was something in me that I couldn’t quite see or know yet - that was blocking me from having my desire.

My blocks to having this thing I wanted so deeply were no one else’s “fault”. They were self-imposed.

This is the make or break moment for anyone looking to make a big shift in their lives. It certainly has been for me and for my many clients over the years.

Here’s an invitation for you:

Right now, think about one behavior pattern, an elusive desire, a frustration with a situation in your life.

What if the blocks to resolving it are largely within you?

I find that this idea tends to elicit two really strong reactions. Either:

A) You wanna send me straight to hell, you are outraged at this premise, and “how dare I” suggest such a thing? or…

B) This rings true to some part of you, and you decide to listen to that little voice within. You sit with this idea with some silence, curiosity and openness. You may even find yourself asking: “Ok, now what?”

Whichever camp you’re in - I hold endless love and lightness for you. I spent a good seven years in Camp A. I get it.

And, the moment I was open to Camp B - everything shifted.

Because rather than feel shamed by the premise that I might be the one holding myself back from the thing I wanted, I understood it to be an opportunity to liberate myself. I was so tired of judging or shaming myself for my results, there was no more room for it.

If had the power to block myself, perhaps I also had the power to set myself free.

This willingness to look inward with humility, curiosity, openness to explore and develop a new relationship with yourself is the baseline for lasting shifts in your life.

The possibility that Camp B may be real, the willingness to see where this path leads, that’s all you really need to get started with the work that will have you becoming who you know you get to be, and creating the life you know is yours.

As for my results? That November evening in 2018 was the first step. There were indeed many “blocks” to be seen, and integrated - a process which led to my being in a deeply loving committed partnership with my husband today. The road was long, and absolutely worth it.

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